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    Why you should never use timeouts on your kids

    We found this very interesting article, about putting children in time out and why it is not something that establish good behavior in children.

    Many parents think putting their child in time out will help them understand that they have done something wrong, but according to this article, that is not the case. "Certified parenting instructor Linda Hatfield, who runs a Southern California program called Parenting from the Heart, explained that decades of neuroscience and social research have shown that time outs and other methods of punishment are not only ineffective in steering the behavior of children but outright damaging."

    Originated by psychologist B.F. Skinner, time outs are a form of light punishment in which a child is placed in a certain spot for a set period of time. Often, the child is made to stay “in timeout,” even if it requires restraint, and is ignored for the duration.

    According to Hatfield though, "all punishments are ineffective, because the vast majority of kids don’t misbehave; they behave. They behave like kids. They don’t do things to be bad; they do things because those things are age-appropriate, or because they’re still learning, or because they’re not getting some basic need met. Maybe they are hungry or tired; maybe they are over stimulated or overwhelmed; maybe they need a hug. Or maybe they just don’t know how to process whatever emotion they’re feeling. Punishment in any form is harmful, because it takes the core need of the child… and uses it as a bargaining chip.”

    The central point Hatfield mentions and which parents should consider before "punishing" their children, is that all behavior is communication.

    If you would like to read the full article, please click the link down below.